20090930

To those who are married, not married and soon to be married

I've gone throught a really touch and loving story... wanna share with you guys now.

To those who are married, .. Not married .. and soon to be married

MARRIAGE

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said,

" I've got something to tell you." She sat down and ate quietly. 
Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. 

I want a divorce.. I raised the topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?
I avoided her question. This made her angry. 

She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! 
That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. 
I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage.
But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Dew. 
I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. 

The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger.
I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. 
The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. 

I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. 

I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce.
She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. 

Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day..

She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy.. 

Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions... 

She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully..

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. 

Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms.
His words brought me a sense of pain. 
From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. 
I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. 
She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. 

She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time.. I realized she was not young any more. 
There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! 
Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning.

This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. 

I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. 
Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. 

She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. 
Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger.
I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. 

Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out.

To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life.
My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute.
I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway.
Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. 
I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. 

On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. 
Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. 

I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. 
Dew opened the door and I said to her, "Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore."

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. 

"Do you have a fever?" She said. 
I moved her hand off my head.
"Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart."

Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. 

The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote," I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart."

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I ran up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -
DEAD......
I cried and cried uncontrollably and carried her for the last time from the room to the hall with tears streaming down my face and gazing at my only son, his tears rolling from his eyes, they made me cry even more. 
I had lost my love, my wife and a loving and caring mother and nothing I could do now to put the clock backward. I had all the time now to look at her motionless body in detail but I knew it was going to be only for a short while until she made her last journey to the Lord.....
I held my son and wept again and again thinking of all the things I did not do for her when she was still alive.........and placed gently the flowers in her hands with my tears trickling on them.......
she was gone forever, all my tears would not bring her back .



The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. 

It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank, blah..blah..blah. 
These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you..

If you do, you might just save a marriage.
To those who are married, .. Not married .. and soon to be married


Isn't a great story?  I really hope those who are facing marriage problem could read this article.


 

20090928

露得清 深层 卸妆乳

露得清 深层 卸妆乳Neutrogena Deep Clean Cleansing Lotion

Description:
Thoroughly cleans and removes all types of makeup, even waterproof mascara and long-lasting lipstick, plus other skin impurities that can accumulate in your pores. Its gentle emollients work at the skin's surface to effectively sweep away all makeup without irritation, excessive rubbing or the greasy feel. In one easy step, both face and eyes are refreshingly clean and free of pore-clogging residue. Your skin feels soft and smooth from more thorough cleansing.

Suitable for all skin types, even sensitive skin.

说明:
去除造成毛孔阻塞和肤色暗沉的油垢及老废角质,彻底洁净化妆、防水性的唇膏颜色,给肌肤柔嫩光滑的清爽感。可用于眼部清洁及敏感肌肤。一个简单的步骤,就能彻底卸除脸部及眼部各式彩妆,毛膏及持久性唇膏,让阻塞毛孔的彩妆及脏污都能完全卸除干净、不残留。独特的洁净复合配方,轻轻搓揉就能软化各式彩妆,不会刺激皮肤、不油腻骤,脸部及眼部彩妆都能卸得干净清爽,毛孔也不会被彩妆阻塞了。

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在包装上是这么说啦。可是不骗你哦!真得很好用,连我妈都说好。
我妈妈的皮肤也和我一样,敏感,还算是严重的那一种。

我做了实验噢,来证明我不是在说谎。

 
挤出来是乳白色的,质地很清爽。

 
这是防水,防晕染性很好的睫毛膏噢
 
 看不出刚刚是有涂上睫毛膏的手吧?是不是很干净呢?
棉花上都是卸掉的睫毛膏噢。。。我只擦一遍罢了,就那么干净了。真的把我吓了一跳。


再一个。。。


 粉底液。
你只要把卸妆乳挤出一点点,然后放在手上按摩两秒使卸妆乳乳化化妆品,再擦掉就行了。




真的很好用哦,所以想推荐给大家试一试。。。



20090926

[Vivien生活日记] 26/9

最近 选择享受人生。。。

不希望浪费了人生任何一秒钟。。。
暂时希望成为一个称职的槟城人
希望享受海边,享受食物,享受风景。。。
这里的一切的一切都要把它享受完。。。
不想浪费人生
今天和妈妈去了海边。。。
虽然不是去玩水,但还是很开心。。。
因为好久没和妈妈去海边了。
自从家里发生问题后,生活方式渐渐改变。
从一个开心,幸福的家庭,变成痛苦有折磨人的家
每一刻都不想呆在家里,总想往外跑。
所有读我部落格的人们,记得,千万记得
不要浪费任何一秒钟,尽量做你想最,你能做的事
否则后悔就来不及了。。。

20090917

[Vivien生活日记] 17/9

最近,我的日本朋友来我家住一个星期。。。我真得很开心。

因为我一向来很希望有个姐姐,一起干些女孩们该干的事。

和她生活在一起,我觉得很自然。不管我们有没有不同国家的文化都好,还是感觉不错。

可能是兴趣一样吧。突然又个姐姐跑出来感觉很不一样。

我们在一起时有一种双胞胎的感觉,想法很相似。

我有一种怪癖,就是年头年中都是不爱做功课的人,而到了年尾就会拼了命的做功课人。

我已经观察我自己很久了。。。可还是找不到原因。还是算了吧

不懂是不是我的个性问题,朋友们和我做一阵子的朋友后,就会离我而去。

使我忽略了他们了吗?其实我很希望做回我自己,就像现在一样。

干我喜欢干的是,看我喜欢看的书,聊我喜欢聊的话题等等等等的。。。

这样比较适合我。我不喜欢演戏,假装在人家面前。

我要笑就笑大大声,哭也是,生气也是,不想隐瞒我的内心世界了。

可是,这样人家会不会对我反感呢?

听很多人说,‘我们不需要迎合每一个人的个性’

如果我真得那么做还会有朋友吗?

自从出来工作后,发现社会真的很乱,每一个人因为自己的利益而虚心假面的,好恐怖!

应该很多人不懂吧!当我们人经过了很多磨练以及痛苦后,真的会长大很多。

对!没有钱活不了,可我却抱着一种 ’钱还是可以赚来’ 的态度生活着。

我跟我妈妈这么说,他说是因为我还没有真正踏入着社会。

也对啦其实。

我要长大!脱离一切,重新开始!

各位和我一起加油吧!

20090914

皮肤最近又在出状况了!

从上一个星期开始, 皮肤有在出现很多粉刺,黑头以及痘痘了。

最后就去找我表姐做脸部护理。希望能够把我的黑头,痘痘以及粉刺都清除掉。

脸也一直在脱皮,就像蛇在换皮一样,一直脱个不停。可能是因为太过缺水了,因为最近都满忙得所以没时间好好的保养。

做完护理之后,皮肤真的变得很滑,脱皮的状况也都减少了。我表姐挤痘痘可不是用痘痘棒的噢,是用手的所以感觉不同哦。

应该很多人问吧,用手挤得干净吗?我个人觉得用手挤反而比较干净,也可以减少红肿的显现哦。如果用痘痘棒的话反而会容易留下疤痕,也会出现红红一粒一粒的小疙瘩,也很难消哦。

最近又开始勤于做面膜了,希望能够改善肌肤的问题。

我的皮肤时好时坏,这点让我很懊恼。。。不过现在改善很多了。。。